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Misreading Introverts

As an introvert, it’s frustrating to deal with the common misconceptions held regarding my personality type. Here’s Mercatus Center scholar Jerry Brito debunking the top ten myths about introverts:

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.

UPDATE: Read more about introverts here.

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  1. March 2, 2013 at 7:46 pm

    Reblogged this on Intracacies of an Imaginative Introvert and commented:
    I love this! Introverts are so misunderstood by extroverts! This should be mandatory reading for all extroverts 😉


  2. April 19, 2013 at 3:33 pm

    Amazing article. This is like 70% me described in there. I saw myself in many of these circumstances and I had no idea, I had never really thought of it.


  3. thefuturefoundation16
    April 27, 2013 at 11:01 am

    Reblogged this on TheFutureFoundation and commented:
    I’m not sure if I’m an introvert (maybe I am), but this is a very interesting article.


  4. May 3, 2013 at 5:08 am

    read it and love it. this is the whole definition of me


  5. ton
    May 16, 2013 at 10:21 pm

    this is so releiving and made me feel so uplifted, all of the things that’s on the article are pertaining to me… no i’ve fully understand my self 🙂


  6. Rich
    August 2, 2013 at 11:24 pm

    Pretty accurate, but some of us introverts are thrill seekers and love the adrenalin rush.


    • Jesse Mose
      September 1, 2013 at 3:23 pm

      I’m totally with you,Rich.Ever tried parkour?


  7. August 28, 2013 at 1:01 pm

    Rich, thrills may be drug of choice for all types of personalities….


  8. Heather
    February 9, 2014 at 10:27 pm

    Wow!! I finally feel understood!! 9 out of the 10 items fit me to a T. Often, people assume I’m a snob; couldn’t be further from the truth.


  9. February 10, 2014 at 12:05 pm

    Pretty interesting. I have always been considered an extrovert but I knew I wasn’t. I think most people think that an introvert lives a reclusive lifestyle like Howard Hughes in his later days.


  10. Brenda Ray
    August 22, 2015 at 11:17 am

    This is defiantly me! #6 and #9 are Spot On! But we introverts are more outgoing than people perceive. We just need more space and understanding because we can change in an instant! Great article.


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